here are some views i find useful in (work) life – none of them are entirely my own.
see for example the work at
do i live up to them today? no.
do i have time to write them down, really? no.
all in all, the perfect moment to write them down. maybe they are useful.
taking the opposite view
whenever you find that you hold a certain view very strongly,
test its negation or absolute opposite,
and ask yourself whether you could support that view too.
very often you will find that you will.
the most irritating person reminds you of … yourself
when you find that a certain quality or feature of another person deeply irritates you strongly,
look for the same quality in yourself.
you are very likely to find it.
for example, when the greed or ambition of another person puts you off,
most likely this corresponds to an unsatisfied need or tendency within yourself.
or example, show-offs always get me worked up,
as they remind me of my own tendency to appear as what i am not,
to satisfy more than i can.
the most irritating person is your mirror.
seeing that makes is a lot easier to forgive and cooperate.
we desire soooo what has already been given to us
so there is something you really desire and want to own.
the fact that you see it means
it has already been given to you.
for example,
when you cycle by a flowershop and the wonderful scent makes you want to buy a bunch -
you have already enjoyed the wonderful scent of flowers.
there is no need to buy.
you look onto that beautiful house across the street and you want to be the owner.
however, if you lived in that house, you would not be able to view and admire it like you do right now.
sometimes it is better to live in the ugly block across the street – with a view.
and to bike on with the scent of flowers in your mind.
embrace the result – no matter how it comes to be
when you want something to happen, and just before you yourself can make it happen -
it happens without your contribution (or so you think) -
be happy!
you wanted it to happen, it has happened.
without you knowing, you have created the situation for it to happen. even if invisibly so.
if your wish has been sincere, it is perfect.
if it does not feel perfect, examine the wish you had in the first place.
engage fully – then let go
when you are working to make something happen, go for it with all your energy.
at the moment results begin to show – let it go, no matter if the outcome is 100% identical to what you wanted.
sometimes things come to work in an unexpected way, and maybe better than if they worked according to plan.
here is the difficult one
mastering the stretch between these two:
- understanding that at work we are acting in a role, and being able to separate role from full human being
(this we are often taught in standard management training …)
but at the same time
- bringing everything to the path – engaging fully, with all we are, all our shadows and ghosts and past mistakes
both are important.
constructing realities
so she or he has said something irritating to me the other day.
i say i will sleep on it, think about it.
and then i “think about it” -
with no additional information from outside whatsoever,
the negative picture begins to form.
and i answer angry the next morning.
when we say “i will think about it”, we mean
“i will construct a reality within myself and then i will repsond to what i have built”.
we are constructors. it is our choice what we build.
